One of my really good friends recently found out that her trainer (she rides horses) committed suicide.
I'd never met this person, so the news didn't really impact me, but the fact that my friend started bawling scared the living shit out of me.
I've never seen her cry. In fact, she has to be one of the happiest, craziest people I've ever known in my life and to see her break down jarred me.
And the worst part?
I have no idea what to say to her. I can't think of anything to make her feel better. I'm ashamed to say this, but I even took a different hallway to class because I knew I'd run into her if I went the usual way.
I just want her to now that I feel so sorry for her loss, and that I'm here if she ever needs me.
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3 comments:
Your words struck me, I'm tearing up now for some strange reason.
With the people I know, suicide seems to be a very popular idea for those in peril. I've counseled a few people who are extremely close to me out of doing it... and I, too, have been talked out of it at one point, too.
I've never had to go through losing someone to suicide, but I hear it is painful. That's why I always say something to people, give them something to listen to, because you've at least got to make an effort.
Sadness is not as serious as suicidalness, but that is where the latter starts. And so, try to really make an effort to voice to your friend that you're there if she does need you, demonstrate that seeing her cry touches your heart as well.
Sometimes, it's not about making them feel better. Simply talking to them works, while keeping silent doesn't. With an active conversation, things always go up a more positive note, even though it's tense and glum at first.
Humans are born to be nice to each other, to communicate, to share, to care. Try your best, I hope it gets better for your friend soon.
Michael.
I'm sorry about the whole situation. Your friend must be really upset and the situation you're in is an awkward one.
I'd do my best to keep her spirits up.
Thanks for the advice. I've been trying to talk to her and keep a conversation, but somehow it just seems like I'm being insensitive and trying to avoid the entire situation.
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